Your motivational strategy, which you often use, is
IMPOSTOR
You are motivated to complete tasks,
when you are ashamed of your behaviour
and you feel like a fraud.
Unlike neurotypical people, you find motivation, determination, even joy in tasks that you find interesting, unique and arouse strong emotions. The more passionate and exciting the task, the more likely you are to complete it.
Consequences, the prospect of reward, the urgency and importance of the task do not motivate - only fun and excitement do.
Consequences, the prospect of reward, the urgency and importance of the task do not motivate - only fun and excitement do.
"I've always been able to do anything I wanted, as long as I was able to get excited about it."
Is that what you've got?
The difficulty in completing a task is not a question of lack of concentration or attention skills.
It is a lack of interest and intense emotion.
Often you are already asking yourself questions completely unconsciously before undertaking a task:
Will I have fun?
How much does this task work on my emotions?
It is a lack of interest and intense emotion.
Often you are already asking yourself questions completely unconsciously before undertaking a task:
Will I have fun?
How much does this task work on my emotions?
For people with ADHD, starting, continuing and completing tasks is a real challenge. Instability of interest and intense emotions do not make the process any easier.
In order to motivate ourselves, we often turn to various motivational tricks that tap into our emotions, but at the same time consume a lot of energy.
Based on your answers, the most common motivational trick you use is:
Impostor
Impostor
When you are ashamed of your behaviour and feel like a fraud, you are motivated to complete tasks.
Somewhere inside you feel that your failures define you and that you don’t deserve love and belonging.
You are constantly trying to prove your worth to yourself and others.
You feel that you will disappoint your colleagues.
You keep up the pace of activity so that you don’t spoil the lives of your loved ones.
You feel incompetent, weak, stupid.
And you set yourself a challenge to prove to yourself that this is not the case.
Shame may bring motivation to action, but it takes a far greater toll in the long term.
The body is physically exhausted.
Self-hatred disguised as discipline – it devalues you
Drives you to do better.
Success brings no satisfaction, but rather emptiness and loss of strength.
A new task appears on the horizon.
And you feel shame again.
And you act under its influence.
The circle closes.
And it spins endlessly.
What is not worth doing?
Doubt yourself and think about what you 'should' be doing
Instead, follow the values you believe in.
To be in control of everything
Instead, learn to let go and use your intuition.
Look for the determinant of success and performance in exhaustion
Instead, take care to relax and have fun.
You are ENOUGH - to lead a fulfilling life.
What can you use?
Read blogs / listen to podcasts / join a support group / enlist the help of loved ones / qualified experts to better support you in introducing good habits to help you complete tasks.
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